Friday Night Pep-Talk: DON’T YOU GIVE IN
TGIF! Today’s Friday and that seems to be a lot of people all around the world’s favorite day. It’s the end of the work week and a payday for many. And the local bars will be packed for Happy Hour. Happy Hour!? OMG!
You may find that Fridays are especially challenging for you — they certainly were for me! Something about Fridays, it just always felt like celebrating and drinking – drinking alot! My cravings were just crazy! And then the voice would start talking… and enticing…
BUT, DON’T YOU GIVE IN!
Remember the reality. What was your last drunk like?
Don’t listen to that voice! Despite everything you already know in your bones to be true about your drinking that damn voice is telling you that giving in would be easier and you can once again have fun. But you know that if you were to look objectively at the sum of your drinking Fridays, things were not so much fun, now were they?
To help through the difficult first weeks:
- Get rid of all the alcohol in your home, if you haven’t already. Even if you have an expensive bottle of scotch or a fancy bottle of Cabernet, it won’t do you any good — ever. If you feel guilty about throwing nice alcohol away, give it to your friends or family.
- Ask friends who tend to drink alcohol often to tone down their drinking while in your company. If they refuse, you may not want to spend time with them while they drink. The less you are around alcohol, the less you will be tempted to break your resolve.
- Ask your friends to not drink around you completely. This is the easiest way to avoid temptation.
- Avoid events that will be alcohol-heavy. This means weddings, concerts, 30th birthday parties, and any other raucous affairs. Though you may be able to attend these without being tempted one day, if you’re struggling to stay sober, don’t make it harder for yourself.
Anticipate and plan your Friday’s accordingly. Fill them up with things to do, a movie to watch, a book to read, a friend to hang out with. This is really important, white-knuckling it is absolutely exhausting! Instead find ways to celebrate the end of the week without alcohol!
I would greatly encourage you to get involved in a support systems. For most people this is going to mean 12 step meetings, but it might also mean things like attending an outpatient therapy group, or seeing a counselor on a regular basis. The more “plugged in” to these support systems the person is, the better their chances of staying clean in the long run.
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Be hopeful always and celebrate you and celebrate sobriety!
“Hope” is the thing with feathers
That perches in the soul
And sings the tune without the words
And never stops at all,
And sweetest in the gale is heard;
And sore must be the storm
That could abash the little bird
That kept so many warm.
I’ve heard it in the chillest land
And on the strangest sea,
Yet never, in extremity,
It asked a crumb of me.
– Emily Dickinson
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