Happy Sober Thanksgiving

ahhh holidays….

What can I say, it sure can be a mixed bag! The stress and the love all mixed up and thrown into one day. If you’re new to sobriety this can be a challenge but I assure you that you can do this and sober!.

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If you were anything like me, any day was a holiday! Lol! And what I mean by that is that I never needed a holiday to get drunk, any day was just fine. Actually because I had to keep the appearances of being all put together, I made a real good effort not to over drink. And that in itself was quite a challenge. I mean I wanted to drink but not to not over drink was sometimes a mystery. I just didn’t seem to have an off button, once I started it was hard to stop. But, appearance were sooo important to me that I actually only got drunk 2 times at a holiday gathering in my entire drinking career. Yes, I was proud! – Good grief, how skewed; so glad that I don’t have to go through that mental game anymore.

In sobriety I have been able to be more comfortable in my own skin and there is no need for keeping up the appearances anymore. But it all can still be stressful and bring on a lot of anxiety. I always like to have a plan; first and foremost I don’t drink no matter what, if I have to leave to save my sobriety then I do so! Second, I get myself mentally prepared, that means focusing on things that I have control over as far as my own state of mind and behavior. If I enter carrying negativity it is most likely going to fester even more once!

I try to remember these few things:

  • Leave my judgment at the door
  • Don’t take anything personally
  • Keep a check on my own behavior
  • Get involved in whatever is needed
  • Focus on something positive
  • Be kind to myself

My first few sober holidays were kind of mind-boggling; I felt out of sorts and uneasy. I needed a lot of support from different places; I had a texting buddy, I had a list of people to call, I had selected meetings that I could attend and I repeated the serenity prayer quite often. But I have also realized that if I go in with a good attitude and really focus on the reason we all get together for this holiday, then I feel better and I do not get the urge to check out and drink. And for me, that’s half of the battle right there!
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In closing, I would like to extend a special Thanksgiving cyber {{[HUG}}} to all the people who are missing their loved ones during the holidays. This season can prove challenging for anyone mourning the loss of someone, even many years after. After I lost my (step) mom Thanksgiving just hasn’t been the same. So I am now focusing on the family that I have here and I am embracing the new holiday traditions that have evolved. Keeping the attitude of gratitude~!

I hope you all have a wonderful sober Thanksgiving!


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4 Comments Add yours

  1. Thank you for this information, and for your kind thoughts! Here’s a Happy Thanksgiving HUG for you!!

    Carrie at Day #30!

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    1. Hi Carrie! Thank you so much! Congrats on day 30+! I hope you’re doing well! Hugs.

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  2. Loved this, Maggie, thank you! And thank you for the mention and for the other links too.

    Really loved the part about happiness being a choice and choosing not to carry negativity into a situation with you.

    Happy holidays, my friend,
    Christy

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    1. Hi Christy! So nice to “see” you! Thanks for the kind words, and you know whenever I can I try to include you; you are an awesome inspiration to all – thank you!

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