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Getting Sober: Where to Start

Quitting drinking today can change your entire future!! If you are ready to get started, and end the continuous miserable cycle of alcoholism, you have come to the right place!
WELCOME! I have been down this journey myself and I am extremely grateful for every day that I do not take a drink. Getting sober is a wonderfully rewarding, yet a quite difficult process. The first steps are always the hardest, but all you have to do is just put one foot in front of the other. If you choose this journey you will gain strength, and knowledge, and freedom that you have never experienced. I would love to share a few things with you that may help you get started!

Important note: If you choose to start the path to recovery, and if you have been drinking large amounts for a long time, it may be best to see a doctor, or check into a detox center, or your local hospital. Do not try to stop drinking suddenly — alcohol withdrawal can potentially be deadly. If you start experiencing severe withdrawal symptoms (panic attacks, , rapid heartbeat, severe anxiety, the shakes) you should seek immediate medical assistance. The condition could potentially deteriorate to delirium tremens (DT’s), which is deadly, if left untreated.

GET READY: If you are ready to start this journey, I would highly recommend that you get rid of any alcohol that may still be in your house. I would even recommend getting rid of the wine openers, the bottle poppers and all alcohol related glassware, and drink mixers. This will help you when you get triggered to drink, by making it a bit more difficult – it’s hard to open a bottle of wine without a corkscrew; this may give you enough time to change your mind about drinking it.


THE BEGINNING. Be aware that first few days will be tough. Your neurons, which have been deadened by alcohol for some time, and now are all busy with activity, which means your body functions are trying to get used to their normal activity levels. Resting and sleep will probably be hard to catch for a couple of days as your body is adjusting. In the meantime, your brain will tell you lies: “It’s not that bad,” “I can just moderate better,” “I don’t really drink that much,” “I will feel better if I have a drink.” Call it a LIAR and go watch some late-night TV till it passes! Keep yourself busy to avoid wondering thoughts!

AVOID DRINKING SITUATIONS. You know that saying, if you stand by the hot dog cart long enough, you will get a hot dog! Do not put yourself in situations where alcohol is the main event! This also pertains to people too; you might have to give up your old drinking buddies and the favorite watering hole. It’s really important that you stay away from all alcohol related activities to minimize your triggers and cravings, which unfortunately are a part of early sobriety. Alcoholism is very powerful disease, do not underestimate it!!!

FIND SUPPORT. It may be the hardest part of your path to recovery. Like it or not, few people attain sobriety alone, and even fewer sustain it alone. Don’t feel inadequate about asking for help! Joining a support network like Alcoholics AnonymousSMART Recovery, or Soberistas, or even telling your family and friends what you are dealing with, can be beneficial to your recovery process. You can also start a blog and connect to the recovery community. There is lots of support online. Check out Find Support link at the top of this page and Fellow Bloggers in the right sidebar.


FEEL YOUR FEELINGS. Cry when you need to, and laugh when you can. Get angry if you feel like it. Eat when you are hungry. Sleep when you are tired. Most likely, you haven’t felt your feelings for a long time. You will find many feelings that you may not be able to even identify. This is going to be really strange at first, but try to embrace them. This was not meant to be easy, but it will get easier with time!

COMMIT TO 90 DAYS. Researchers at Yale University have documented what they call the sleeper effect–a gradual re-engaging of proper decision making and analytical functions in the brain’s prefrontal cortex–after a drug addict or alcoholic has abstained for at least 90-days. From the July 05, 2007 issue of Time Magazine’s cover story, “How We Get Addicted” by Michael D. Lemonick, “Research shows that the prefrontal cortex of the brain is very important in sustaining substance abuse sobriety because it helps you control your impulses and refrain from alcoholism and drug abuse. It takes at least 90-days for it to re-engage.”

KEEP INSPIRED. Sobriety is a learned skill; like any skill it takes time to be good at it. You may start really excited and then lose interest and get bored. You may struggle with your feelings, both mental and physical. You may hate life without alcohol, and miss all the things that make drinking “great!” You will want to quit and just go back to your old life! But DO NOT GIVE IN! Remind yourself of the last time you drank, or the scary incident you found yourself in while drinking, or a risky behavior you were engaged in due to your drinking! You don’t want to go back there again! I promise if you stay sober, things will get better and you will never have to feel that way again.

In closing, I hope you have found some good information to get you started your sober journey. I hope you give it a chance enough to see the amazing gifts that sobriety can bring. You can read about my journey to sobriety on the About Me page. I also want to share this powerful passage from a post that I have recently stumbled on, called “Our Featured Presentation: Addiction” – by Kendall F. Person, the public blogger:

Addiction does not give a damn about me or Whitney or Amy or Heath or the nameless addict, who panhandles on the street. It will never be your friend and it will never be satisfied. And if by the grace of God you survive, the precious gift of noticing the blue sky, becomes intensified, and the meaning of your life becomes glorified and the fire to lend a hand, becomes magnified, and the knowledge you acquired, you cannot hold inside, and you recognize your gift of words, do not belong to you, so you share outside,  and the mission to spread peace shifts into overdrive, and the value of life becomes rarefied, and the desire to meet the world is mesmerizing, and the energy received from those you meet, is electrifying, and the idea I may inspire, is gratifying, and the meaning of my life, materializes and comprehending those years were not lost, if my addiction can save a life.

I would love to hear from you, what was a crucial part of your early recovery?

If you, or anyone you know, is struggling with alcohol addiction, please click the Find Support link for an extensive list of support groups. Also please check out the links to many useful resources in the sidebar, and always feel free to contact me anytime at

You may also find some great inspiration and support from all the awesome sober bloggers listed in the side bar under POSTS I LIKE and RECOVERY BLOGGERS, as well as Sober Courage page on Facebook and Sober Courage on Twitter.



  1. Awesome information, as always, my friend…love it. You are right about the sleep thing, about the detoxing, the feeling your feelings, the brain chemistry stuff…they are all ingredients for a recipe where the result is tough times in early recovery. I was like a zombie the first few months, even though I felt a ton better. But that was better compare to my old self! lol. But things get better, and having support of some kind and/or battle plan helps for sure.

    Great post!



    • Hi Paul! Thanks for the kind words! I had an awful time with sleeping and I was so anxious too. But little bu little things did get better! And that is definitely the great part of the journey. Returning to self both physical and emotional was just really revolutionary I think. And support, lots of support, that was so important to have, to know that someone cared, and was willing to listen to me and help me when I felt lost! Good stuff!


  2. GREAT! This was/is all spot on for this alcoholic/addict! As I drank & did drugs I needed tons of triggers removed from my home. It was too much for my brain and heart to handle alone. So I did ask for help! Prob the first time ever! I had a huge network of folks who believed in me & wanted to help. I did everything mentioned in your post and today I have 2,160 days in a row. I still apply many of the tools mentioned in your post.
    Being alone in the beginning was my worst enemy. Now being an addict as well, I had been in some pretty rough neighborhoods. NONE of them where as dangerous as the one between my ears! My mind is a dangerous place to be alone. Lots of slumber parties with like minded women helped me huge and late night coffee and pie too!
    Mmmm pie, ok, if I’m to be rigorously honest here…
    Pie ALL day!
    Sobriety was and continues to be the best decision I have ever made. For with out sobriety I would not have chosen to marry, have a child, have a higher power, or anything!
    Thanks for posting!
    Hugs to you cyber sis in recovery!


    • Hey Clairey! Woot woot! 2,160 days! Is that amazing or what?!?!? You’re a miracle!
      Oh yes, the mess between the ears was so dangerous! And there was so much of it, and all over the place. I had to stay busy just not to think! lol! Everything was so new and different and scary. I stuck with the women too, I knew they had experiences that were more related to mine, and they laughed like nobody’s business! In the beginning I was so confused, what was so great about sobriety, but with time they helped me to see! Oh and pie… well, candy is my thing, just pure colored sugar candy! Always had a pocket full!
      Thanks for stopping by!
      Hugs back cyber sis! And stay warm 🙂


  3. You always give us great information, but the timing on this particular post is also spot on! So important for those trying this for the first time to have an idea what to expect in the first few days and weeks.

    For me, the most important tools in early sobriety was an easily manageable structure to my day. For me, that meant going to a meeting every day, praying every morning, talking to at least one other person in recovery. I had to give myself those minimum requirements each day; after that, my goal was to be as good to myself as I could possibly be. All my other requirements… perceived social obligations, housecleaning, anything along those lines had to take a back seat to my sobriety.

    Day by day it gets easier, the important thing is to hang in there!


    • Hi Jose! I too had to have a routine and a busy schedule. I was so afraid that any empty time on my hands would just be screaming disaster. And being alone for long periods of time was bad too. I spent lots of my time in meetings and at Target before they started selling alcohol, just wondering around and reading books. I remember it was so hard not to drink those first few weeks that that was all I could focus on, and like you everything else just got done when it got done!

      Thanks for stopping by and your very helpful comment!
      Hope you are staying warm too! They are calling Monday night to be the coldest in like 5 years – 1 degree! And we still have ice and snow on the ground – I don’t know about you but I think I am ready for the beach 🙂


  4. Fantastic post Maggie! What helped me in early recovery was understanding and avoiding my triggers. Oddly, happiness was a trigger because it was always an excuse to celebrate. Even though I couldn’t avoid happiness (or want to), I could formulate a plan on what I would do if it lead to wanting to drink.


    • Hi Karen! Thank you! I can totally relate about the happiness being a trigger. In early sobriety I was always preparing for the catastrophe and had a plan in place and all, but it didn’t even dawn on me that happiness would be a trigger! But then it happen and I was like oh sh@t! Thanks for bringing it up, I think many of us do this, we get ready for the bad but really triggers can be anything! I had to be really careful…


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