Don’t Give Up Before the Sobriety Miracle Happens
Sometimes, I still wonder, how did I ever managed to get sober! Quitting drinking sure seemed so simple at first, all I had to do is not drink, right? Then I realized that it isn’t so easy, because for years I have wrapped my mind and heart around alcohol. For us who have been avoiding dealing with our world, it may be quite overwhelming to have to live life on life’s terms without the aid of the trusty elixir.
Rehabilitation from Alcohol Use Disorder (AUS)* is not possible unless the person affected is willing and ready to change. It may seem odd to you if you have lost your job, your family and everything you thought you loved and you still don’t want to quit drinking. This is a normal part of the disease.
We all have our own journey, and we get it when we get it. For me, it was crucial to stop fighting it, and to give up the debate – it is what it is, I cannot drink alcohol safely. I had to be honest with myself and others about this, which also meant opening up and admitting that I needed help.
Finding support was absolutely essential. I had no idea how to go about living life sober! I was absolutely terrified about it and at the same I was also sick and tired of being sick and tired. I was finally done, I was no longer willing to fight it and beat it into submission. I was truly ready to accept it and move on towards a solution, and stop living in the problem – alcohol was my problem, recovery is my solution.
It is really a huge help to have a network of people who are going through the same struggles as you. Whatever you may find to be helpful doesn’t really matter, as long as you have some kind of support during the early sobriety days, and later on. Listen, I get it, it’s hard to ask and look for support. There is so much conflicting information about 12-step programs and online groups! But if you really want to get sober and you are struggling, it’s worth the effort to find out for yourself what they are all about. You will be surprised to meet so many people who are going through this exact journey now!
No matter how you get sober, or what program you follow if any, take good care of yourself. You have been unwell for a while and it will take a while for you to get better. I would suggest to start slow, one day at a time. No need to change your entire life all at once. Have faith and tell yourself that you can stay sober just for today.
Today is all that matters. Be mindful of your immediate triggers, like places, people, and things that you associate with drinking – stay away from them. I think this is crucial; for instance we have no business going to a bar if we are trying to stay sober! Plan out your day and follow it. Stay busy and avoid agonizing over the past or the future. If you stay sober long enough, you will start to see the changes in your life! You will not only be sleeping better and feeling better but you will also have whole new outlook on life!
And if you relapse, it is OK, don’t beat yourself up, just start over!
DON’T GIVE UP BEFORE THE MIRACLE HAPPENS! …because it may come fast or a bit slower, but it will happen if you work towards it.
If you, or anyone you know, is struggling with Alcohol Use Disorder (AUD)*, please check out the Sober Courage menu at the top of this page for an extensive list of support groups and recovery related articles. You may also find some great inspiration, support and resources at the bottom of this page.
*Problem drinking that becomes severe is given the medical diagnosis of “alcohol use disorder” or AUD. AUD is a chronic relapsing brain disease characterized by compulsive alcohol use, loss of control over alcohol intake, and a negative emotional state when not using. (Ref: https://www.niaaa.nih.gov/alcohol-health/overview-alcohol-consumption/alcohol-use-disorders)