Happy sober Friday once again y’all. Hope you had a good week and are already to unwind, alcohol free.
Today I am going to unwind by letting it all out, and maybe you had a rough week too and need to unwind also, huh? Well, grab your pen or keyboard, and lets get it all out! Writing out my frustrations has often proven to be a great tool against picking up that drink! Once all the crap is out of my head, I no longer have to dwell on it. I can let it all go, and move on!
So, here is the description of my crazy week – it was crazy! Crazy in my head, crazy at home, and crazy at work! Just all crazy, and I am not even PMSing! Ha!
And guess what? I am still sober! How is this possible!?
I just don’t drink no matter what! Yep! No matter what! That means when my work gets nuts, and deadlines are fast approaching, and God forbid our #1 guy is on vacation, and people have attitudes, (or maybe I have the attitude ?), and the work is all piling-up and I don’t know what is coming next, and from where, and I can’t imagine how I’m going to get it all done, I don’t drink!
That means that when I spend three sleepless nights all because I have let my ego take control, and now I have all this swirling crap in my head about what I want to do when I grow up, and who am I really, and where is my life going, and why I haven’t done this and the other like my friends have, and how come I am not as far in life as they are! Well, I don’t drink!
That means that when my two-year old is waking up screaming in the middle of the night and I have no clue what’s wrong or how to comfort him, and I am already exhausted because of the other two things I have been dealing with, and he asks to watch TV at 3am, and I am like are you kidding me, heck NO! I don’t drink!
And that also means that when my almost eleven year old, hormone driven, sassy girl (and I love her so much) has the attitude the size of the universe, and rolls her eyes at every thing, and has these screaming outburst, and spells of uncontrollable crying, because e v e r y little thing that does not happen exactly as she wants it to, becomes such a catastrophic event that you would think that it is the absolute end of the world, and well, to her it is, and Oh, she is also having the worst summer EVER, well, I still don’t drink!
That’s right! I don’t drink! I use my tools!
I had to pull out all my tools this week, especially the ones I picked up in the beginning, when I was counting the hours, and minutes till the stores closed so I could feel safe and not like I was just gonna run out at any second, to the nearest place that sold alcohol, and grab the biggest container of wine that I could find and poor myself a gigantic tumbler of wine! (because really, I didn’t use wine glasses!) Ha! That’s right! Oh, but I digress. Lol!
Tools! Sober tools are so important! Because most of my life I had only one tool and I used it to deal with everything! But my tool broke long time ago and I have never been able to make it work again. So, I had to pick up new tools!
Here are a few of my favorites:
- Take lots of little breaks! I usually take them in the bathroom because, well, nobody bothers me there!
- Use a meditation (or meditation like) breathing techniques to calm down!
As I am sitting in the bathroom and breathing, I often find myself singing this song that I found on YouTube, to help my five-year old with his frustration! It’s Elmo and Common in a video about breathing the monster out. (I known what you’re thinking, but give it a chance!) It’s really cool and easy to remember because it is sooo freaking catchy.
Watch “Sesame Street: Common and Colbie Caillat – “Belly…” on YouTube: http://youtu.be/_mZbzDOpylA
- Drink lots of water rather than lots of coffee!
When I am really tired, I try to keep my coffee intake to a minimum, because… and against the popular belief, coffee will not help me stay awake when I am exhausted, instead it will drain me from the nutrients and the water that my body needs to deal with stress.
- Repeat the Serenity Prayer, over, and over, and over!
This has become sort of chant, and a positive affirmation, and a meditation, all at the same time. It really clears my head up from all the negative thinking!
- Keep reminding myself that this is temporary!
No matter how I feel at a time, it does not last forever. I may feel like it does, right now, but it’s really does not, and nothing is ever the end of the world, and whatever uncomfortable, crazy period of time I am experiencing it does not have to be the entire day!
Whew! Well, those are few of my main tools! Here is a few more form the Helping Guide
Healthy ways to relax and recharge:
I hope you’re doing well, I hope you wrote out some of your frustrations, and I hope that you got a few more tools to add to your toolbox!
Have an awesome Friday Night, and remember: don’t drink no matter what!
What other tools have you used? Please share!
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