Friday Night Pep-Talk: Find Your Support Network
TGIF! Today’s Friday and that seems to be a lot of people all around the world’s favorite day. It’s the end of the work week and a payday for many. And the local bars will be packed for Happy Hour gatherers! Oh… Happy Hour!?
You may find that Fridays (or weekends) are especially challenging for you. They certainly were tough for me! Something about Fridays, it just always felt like celebrating and drinking and I mean drinking lots! My cravings were just crazy and then the voice would start talking… and enticing…
BUT, DON’T YOU GIVE IN!
Remember the reality. What was your last drunk like? If it was anything like mine, it was not pretty – I found myself flat on the kitchen floor not remembering a thing I did. Ugh.
So don’t listen to that voice! It LIES! Despite everything you already know in your bones to be true about your drinking, that damn voice will still tell you that giving in would be easier, and then you can once again have fun. But you know that if you were to look objectively at some of your drinking Fridays, things were not so much fun, now were they?
But alcohol is everywhere! AND the idea that not drinking is lame and boring has been totally ingrained in our minds! Look at all those fun people in those beer commercials! It almost seems like they have some super powers! LOL! But the thinking that you have to drink to have fun is very FALSE. There is lots of fun in sobriety! Trust me! I sure didn’t get sober to live a boring life! The coolest thing is that I now get to do the fun things that I never could do, because I was too obsessed with drinking to ever do them. Now if I want to do something I can get in my car, at any time, and go wherever the road takes me. I don’t have to plan it, or sober up, or make sure that I can drink after wards, or during, or whatever! This is true freedom!
So to help you get through the difficult first few weeks, anticipate and plan your Fridays accordingly. Fill them up with things to do, a movie to watch, a book to read, a friend to hang out with. This is really important, white-knuckling it is absolutely exhausting! Instead find ways to celebrate the end of the week without alcohol! Check out this list: 100 Fun Things To Do Sober.
Getting sober is a gradual process that can take weeks, months or even years. At times, it may even feel impossible. But it’s not. If you’re ready to stop drinking and willing to get the support you need, you can recover from alcoholism no matter how bad the addiction or how powerless you feel. You don’t have to wait until you hit your rock bottom; you can make a change at any time.
I would also encourage you strongly to get involved in a support system. For most people this is going to mean 12 step meetings, online groups and resources, as well as blogging. But it might also mean things like attending an outpatient therapy group, or seeing a counselor on a regular basis. The more “plugged in” to these support systems the you are, the better your chances of staying sober in the long run.
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Do you have a great support network?
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Important Note: If you decided to start the path to recovery alone, bear in mind that alcohol withdrawal can potentially be deadly. If you start experiencing severe withdrawal symptoms (panic attacks, severe anxiety, the shakes, rapid heartbeat) you should seek immediate medical assistance.