Friday Night Pep-Talk: “Addiction is a brutal, cunning, shapeshifting enemy”
When I was first getting sober, Fridays especially were a nightmare! As all my co-workers and friends were going out to party, I was trying to stay sober. I felt left out, and like I was lame and boring. The clock moved sooo slow. But I couldn’t go hang out with them, and drink a club soda all night, I have already tried that and it was OK the first few times, but eventually I ordered a drink. If there is anything that I have learned from my many relapses is that slippery places are, well slippery! I don’t belong in a place where alcohol is the primary attraction!!!
So, you may find that Friday nights are especially challenging for you too and you’re sitting around and feeling restless! I guess there is just something about Fridays… the end of the workweek and the need for a reward for all the hard work done — it just always feels like celebrating and drinking, and drinking lots! Especially if you had a crazy week like me.
Right now, I have so many thoughts in my head that I can’t actually type all of them out as fast as they come – DAG it, there should be an app for that! Lol! So, here is the description of my crazy week – it was crazy! Crazy in my head, crazy at home, and crazy at work! Just all crazy, and I am not even PMSing! Ha!
And guess what? I am still sober! How is this possible!?
No matter how I feel at a time, it does not last forever. I may feel like it does, right now, but it’s really does not, and nothing is ever the end of the world, and whatever uncomfortable, crazy period of time I am experiencing it does not have to be the entire day!
One of the things that help me is articles from other sober people who have written some powerful stuff about addictions. I have several of these saved on my phone and I love to read them to just be reminded why I am doing all this to stay sober.
Here is one from Rob Delaney, who got sober 12 yrs ago at age 25, and wrote this after the death of Cory Monteith. I absolutely love the power in this post!
Addiction is a brutal, cunning, shapeshifting enemy, but I’ve seen people from every walk of life kick it in the fucking mouth. But if you want to beat it, you must ACKNOWLEDGE ITS STRENGTH and work out in your basement every day, including weekends and holidays, and then when you encounter it on a country road or a city street corner or a weekend barbecue or a subway platform, beat its fucking skull in before it gets the chance to do the same to you. Because it will, because that’s its job.
Booze and drugs are elemental; they don’t care about the alcoholic/addict. They don’t love her, they don’t hate her. But they’ll kill her dead if she doesn’t stand arm in arm with her brothers and sisters and GET HIP to the skill set that will allow her to continue to draw breath in a world where booze and drugs exist, just like firetrucks and cliffs and other things that will kill you without even noticing.
So when someone ODs or kills themselves or crashes a car and dies due to their alcohol/drug use, I don’t say “C’est la vie…,” I say “Fuck that shit,” and I circle the wagons with my other survivor friends and we go over the battle plans a FIVE-HUNDREDTH time, figure out where our dead friend that we love and mourn deviated, and we prepare to greet the coming day in a manner that will give something other than our addictions a fair shot at killing us.
You can read the entire post HERE at Rob Delaney‘s tumbler page.
Have an awesome Friday Night, and remember: don’t drink no matter what!
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