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15 Things You Learn In Your First Month Sober


Those early days of sobriety can be quite challenging. I still remember them clearly, as I was painfully white-knuckling it through each day. From the time after I returned home from work, to the time that I went back to work, was the hardest part of the day. My anxiety levels were through the roof. I wanted to drink all the time. I could not think rationally and I was extremely fidgety. However, the absolute worst were the sweaty, sleepless nights, spent tossing and turning while desperately trying to get just a little bit of rest.

Nevertheless, I pushed on through and after the initial week of mild alcohol withdrawals*, the haze started to lift, and I began to feel better. Much, much better.

The very first month of sobriety is often filled with many changes, some very pleasant and some not so much. The good news is that it gets better and you really start seeing all the positive aspects of quitting drinking! What helped me the most was to break down my days into smaller increments – sometimes minutes, sometimes hours, but no more than 24 hours at a time. This technique really helped to keep my mind focused on just not drinking instead of feeling overwhelmed about my road ahead. Little by little I made changes that helped me along the way – I found support and attended meetings which turned out to be crucial to my survival in those early days.

There were many things that I learned early on and here are the ones I found the most helpful:

15 Things You Learn In Your First Month Sober:

  1. It is really nice to wake up without a hangover.
  2. Getting sober is often harder than you imagined.
  3. The cravings for alcohol can be quite overwhelming.
  4. YOU really are far stronger than you think.
  5. Practically everything around you can be a drinking trigger.
  6. Doing something for the first time without drinking is the hardest.
  7. Isolating is a sure trap and a possible trigger for a relapse.
  8. Bad days happen, just like good days. This is a part of life.
  9. You really can say NO to a party invitation. Really, you can!
  10. You are not the only person in the world that does not drink.
  11. It is none of anyone’s business why you are quitting drinking.
  12. This is really not the worse thing that could ever happen to you.
  13. It is amazing how much more work you can get done when you are not hungover.
  14. Life is definitely not as awful without alcohol as you might have first believed.

No matter how you get sober, or what program you follow if any, take good care of yourself. You have been unwell for a while and it will take a while for you to get better. However, if you continue to stay sober, you will start to see the changes in your life! You will not only be sleeping better and feeling better but you will also have whole new outlook for your future!

*Important note: If you choose to start the path to recovery, and if you have been drinking large amounts of alcohol for a long time, it may be best to see a doctor, or check into a detox center, or your local hospital. Do not try to stop drinking suddenly — alcohol withdrawal can potentially be deadly. If you start experiencing severe withdrawal symptoms (panic attacks, rapid heartbeat, severe anxiety, the shakes) you should seek immediate medical assistance. The condition could potentially deteriorate to Delirium Tremens (DT’s), which can be deadly, if left untreated.

If you, or anyone you know, is struggling with alcohol addiction, please click the Find Support link for an extensive list of support groups. Also please check out the links to many useful resources in the sidebar, and always feel free to contact me anytime at

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  1. Check this out I’m five years clean and life is great! My sobriety is the main thing in my life, as of other things as well but keeping myself clean is one! The first step to addiction is to make the decision on your own to come clean and be sober for yourself, you need to able to tell yourself “hey its that time in my life where I need to come clean and live a normal life for myself”. The most important step to take is to come to terms with the fact that you have a drug addiction problem, its so important that you take that first step to the rest of your life, no matter how hard you think it is, your capable of beating this awful addiction to drugs or alcohol. We need to be able to take that first step to recovery and make a life changing step for us to become recovering drug addicts. Go to meetings if you find NA help or AA they could be something that could help you with your recovery, or there are programs that have a non religious approach like smart recovery and secular organizations for sobriety, that will help you get through your recovery process, its always important to have a sponsor or someone who will help you when things seem to pile up on your page, when things get hectic turn to your sponsor or if you don’t have a sponsor take long deep breathes and remember to keep strong or make a call to a treatment center hotline and ask for help when those cravings come. Relapse is a part of recovery, but that doesn’t just give you a pass to give up and relapse and start over whenever you want, it doesn’t work like. Sometimes the pressures of the world will put you in a corner and will make you feel tiny and a lot of people fall victim to that and relapse, its understanding because your fresh to the world and you just got yourself out of a drug or alcohol rehabilitation center, things are gonna get hard, especially when I left my treatment center I feared my old friends and people I got high with would bring me down and Destroy my relapse and it happened four times on and off during my recovery stages of my addiction ! But like I said relapse is part of recovery bug not a excuse for it! We as addicts have to stay strong and talk amongst each other, that’s why I created this blog so recovering addicts could talk amongst themselves and find out different stories from other people, people were in the same position that you have been. Please feel free to tell your story on my page and you might help someone make the decision to expose their story or get some help. Let’s make a change people!

    Pathway to Recovery is a non-profit organization comprised of recovery addicts and alcoholics who have found their path to a clean and sober life and are now looking to help others find theirs.
    Drawing on the resources that we have available we work to get other addicts in the best possible position they can be in in order to build a foundation for long-term recovery. call 305 846 6068


  2. Hi this article seems great but I can hardly relate to any of those 15 things. I’ve been searching online and am struggling to find someone who is having an experience similar to mine. I’m not tempted to drink, I don’t miss my weekends and I barely think about drinking at all. What I’m struggling with is that all of my problems are still here only now I have one less distraction. It’s taking a toll on me just like drinking was only in a different way. I’m tired and I still feel sick everyday. It’s been 5 weeks and nothing is any better. If anything I’m more cynical than ever being forced to confront my emotions everyday. Does anyone else relate to this struggle that really doesn’t have a lot to do with drinking so much as it does facing the fact that if you stop drinking it won’t fix anything it just changes things? You get new problems in place of your drinking problem and have one less way of distracting yourself.

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    • Thank you for your comment. And congrats on your sobriety! I can totally understand how you’re feeling. There tends to be a period of time when things do not seem any better after we stop drinking. This is why a support group can be so helpful. To deal with the day to day stressors and life on life’s term we must learn new ways of “distracting” ourselves or dealing with our issues. Some great ways are meditation, exercise, prayer and lots of support from people who are also trying to stop drinking. For my list of support groups please click the Find Support link at the top left of the page.
      Wishing you all the best. Keep in touch. Hugs.


  3. I am 1 month sober today! thank you for the post. It is a big f in deal to make it through another day.
    I truly hope I don’t have a relapse. I don’t think I will, but reading some of your comments have made me worried. But I know to never turn my back on alcohol, cuz there it will be, to do harm.
    I have been doing acupuncture 2x a week for a month and have been seeing a counselor weekly. I will continue to do both, as my life depends on it.
    A great book is, “Recovery Refuge”. I suggest it to anyone, who is interested in something other than traditional AA.

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