Guest Post: The Rain and Me
Today’s guest author is Jay who is the Community Outreach Director for One Mind Dharma (http://www.oneminddharma.com), a site dedicated to drug addiction recovery and Buddhist practices. He has over a year clean and sober, and enjoys playing music, writing, and helping others. This is his story:
The Rain and Me
Today it is raining in Los Angeles County. It hardly ever rains, and although it’s refreshing, it serves as a metaphor for my journey of recovery.
Last year I was in a program for Buddhist drug addicts and alcoholics. After years of fighting the twelve steps and those programs, I decided that Buddhism was going to save me alone. I had gone through their inventories, now I was sitting regularly throughout the day, and I was walking the streets of Hollywood trying to find a job. Internally, however, I was miserable.
The misery was a familiar friend; a wind like whisper that reminded me every day “you’re going to fail. It’s a matter of time before you ruin this, too.” My mantra was failure. It haunted me most of the day and I began sinking into my bed and hiding beneath the covers so that I could muffle my crying fits and not be discovered. I hid my pain from everybody, unless I acted out of anger. Anger is an appropriate response to life, so I thought.
The days dragged on and the nights revealed hell; and eventually I broke down and used. I started shooting heroin in the basement of my sober living– my room had a door which led to the street where a companion and I would exchange money for drugs and we’d use together. The last night, I had overdosed, I dreamt a surreal existence that seemed much like an “out of body experience.” There were visual lights I had never imagined before– there were beings and the backdrop of all of it was of the entire world; all of its lights.
I tried to piece these meanings together before I awoke in my bed with my companion telling me, “Stay with me. Stay with me, Jay.” Luckily, I did.
The next day I was kicked out of sober living, as I had told on myself and was scared for my safety. I found myself sitting on the sidewalk outside of a liquor store somewhere in Hollywood. We bartered drugs for money and began drinking, before being offered the floor of a motel room in Echo Park. We accepted.
The floor was a monster and seemed to only feed into our addictions. Drugs I had never thought to do I was mixing with heroin, hoping that somehow I could find my way back to the dream world I experienced in an overdose. I stayed up for nights fixated on the lights of the city, not realizing hours were passing and an eventual a “new day” began.
The wall of one music store was appealing, as a musician I liked, had posed for his album cover there. So, when the rent for our room was up, we stayed at the sidewalk next to this mural. I made 12 dollars in 8 hours busking outside of the shop. A homeless woman had given me 10 dollars of this to play her a Beatles song. The girl I was with was flying a sign making much more than I was.
The girl left that night, and took all of our money and drugs. I slept on the sidewalk on Sunset Blvd and had some of my belongings, namely every piece of identification I had, taken away, along with some valuables. I threw the rest of my clothes away so I could travel on foot lighter. I was stomped on while I slept by a few men who passed. My shoes broke that night– the backs of my boots both snapped. I did what anybody in my position would do, and I tried to break into my sober living at around 3 am.
Somebody had left a pair of shoes on the porch that were two sizes too small, so I stuck my toes in and let my heels drag against the concrete. I found a couch in Silverlake and slept underneath it. I knew that the cops would be called if I were seen, but I didn’t want to be stomped again. I was broken. I still had my guitar, but it might as well have been lost too.
A couple of days later, it was, I was sitting outside of the music shop and the owner came out and said, “You’re the kid saying depressing things to my customers? I’m going to do you a favor. I’ll give you 20 dollars for your guitar– more than you’ll make today, and a dollar in quarters for the payphone. Call your people, and get help, man.” I tried to talk to him about Elliott Smith, and he threatened to call the police. “This isn’t an offer,” he said. “Take it and go.” So I did.
I went to the liquor store on Vermont and Virgil– a 7-11, and bought booze and cigarettes with my money. I managed to take a nap in the bushes, and was woken up by a fire truck sounding its alarm a few paces down the street. I was out of booze. I was out of money. I had nowhere to go. Nobody wanted me around. And the blisters on my feet were bleeding through my socks. This seems like the time to end the story — and it was. Sort of.
In a blackout I had punched a concrete wall and broken my hand. I dialed a friend over 100 times for help– so that the payphone wouldn’t eat my quarters. They had me call the ambulance on myself, which I did, and wait outside of the hospital. Then, a cab came, knowing what shape a person would be in to look for, and took me to a behavioral hospital in Pasadena. The hospital admissions department would not let me in with my hand broken, and I was then taken to an emergency room to have my hand treated. My last high was on March 19th, 2015, in an emergency room on a morphine drip.
March 20th, I was taken back to the behavioral center, and my detox bed was given away. They then committed me under the 51-50 hold to their psych unit. I kicked it cold turkey in their locked ward, with some of the craziest folks I had ever witnessed. I slept on the floor most nights. I cried. I tried calling anyone that I knew, and nobody wanted to talk to me. I was alone and I was beaten. I promised myself– my god, my goddesses, my aliens, whatever would listen that I would do anything that anybody suggested to stay clean. I begged and pleaded and swore that if I ever made it out I would stay clean.
March 20th, 2016 I was given a cake by my friend who had helped me, in front of a small group of people in the treatment center I had gone to after the hospital. It’s raining today in paradise, and I’m thankful to be indoors. I have two pairs of shoes today, just in case one breaks.
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