Bringing In The New Year Sober
New Year’s Eve can be a challenging night to stay sober through! Even with several sober years under my belt, I can’t help but feel like I am going to miss out on the biggest party in the world! So this is a really good time to remind myself of all the sober tools that I have collected over the years and all the reasons why I want to say sober!
The most important for me to remember is:
AVOID PLACES WHERE ALCOHOL IS SERVED! If you don’t feel comfortable, be honest with yourself and just don’t go. (Thanks Paul– this is the most important for sure!)
DON’T GIVE IN NO MATTER WHAT! Nothing, and I mean nothing is worth drinking over!
REMEMBER THE REALITY! What was your last drunk like? Was it really that great?
DO NOT LISTEN TO THAT CUNNING VOICE! You know the voice, the one that tries to convince you that you can have just one!
Instead focus on all the things that can make the night a sober success. Anticipate and plan your New Year’s Eve accordingly. Fill it up with things to do, a movie to watch, a book to read, a friend to hang out with. This is really important, white-knuckling it is absolutely exhausting! Here are some tools straight from my sober toolbox:
Find ways to celebrate without alcohol:
- Buy a reward gift for yourself!
- Start a Blog! – yes! this is fun and a great support tool!
- Read blogs – check out BLOGS I FOLLOW in the right sidebar.
- Call/email someone! – you can always email me at firstname.lastname@example.org
- Make a list of 100 random things about yourself.
- Watch a fun movie with gobs of popcorn and your favorite non-alcoholic drink.
- Write down 25 things that make you happy.
- Bake cupcakes or a cake and decorate it.
- Take a bubble bath with candles and music.
Remember the great things about being sober:
- NO hangovers.
- NO more embarrassing nights.
- NO more shame and guilt.
- NO more drunk driving.
- NO more detox, rehab or jail.
- NO more risky behavior.
- NO more mysterious injuries.
- NO more lying and hiding.
- NO more isolating.
- NO more wasting money.
- NO more starting over.
Check out the online resources:
Alcoholics Anonymous Online: e-AA Group. The e-AA Group offers discussion forums for use by AA members and anyone interested in AA. You can contact the forums coordinator or the moderators from within the forums.
- AAGals On-line Group of Alcoholics Anonymous. AAGals is a group of Women who are dedicated, through the Program of Alcoholics Anonymous, to help each other grow in Sobriety, and to help those still suffering achieve Sobriety.
Official SMART Recovery Web Site. SMART Recovery® is an abstinence-based, not- for-profit organization with a sensible self-help program for people having problems with drinking and using. Not a 12-step program.
- Chat Meetings. Most SMART online meetings are held in a ParaChat room which is accessible in several formats.
- Find a Smart Recovery Meeting. Search the SMART database for face-to-face meetings in your area.
Use meditation for dealing with cravings:
The most basic and universal of all meditation techniques, the breathing meditation is a great place to start your practice.
- Sit comfortably with the back straight. It is not necessary for you to sit in any special pose in order to reap the benefits of this practice.
- Take a couple of deep breaths just to relax the body.
- Then allow the breath to return to normal. You should not attempt to take control of your breathing in any way.
- The next step is to just observe the breath. This can also mean observing any sensations that are caused by the breath.
- It is normal for your mind to wander away from the breath at times. There is no need to feel bad about this just bring the attention gently back to the breath.
I hope that you found some helpful information here! Remember, the way you spend New Year’s Eve sets the tone for the new year. Do it right this year, and instead of waking up with a headache on New Year’s Day, you’ll wake up feeling good about yourself and the year to come! I wish you all the best in the New Year ahead! Please visit the full compilation of the Pep-Talks HERE for more ways to stay sober.
I’d love to hear from you, how do you plan to stay sober?
If you, or anyone you know, is struggling with Alcohol Use Disorder (AUD)*, please check out the Sober Courage menu at the top of this page for an extensive list of support groups and recovery related articles.
*Problem drinking that becomes severe is given the medical diagnosis of “alcohol use disorder” or AUD. AUD is a chronic relapsing brain disease characterized by compulsive alcohol use, loss of control over alcohol intake, and a negative emotional state when not using (Ref: NIAAA).